The retreat has been eye-opening...for the students and myself. (And yes, I've read the adult version of this book and find the teen version much more engaging and relevant to my life, which is kind of sad, isn't it?)
Here's a short breakdown of the habits and videos I've been sharing with my students over the last week. If you want to learn more, I highly recommend picking up the book!
1. Be proactive. Being proactive boils down to taking control of your life; don't let others dictate how you see yourself. When I showed this to my students, they were enthralled and moved. Lizzie is a great example of how we can take control of our lives no matter our obstacles and naysayers.
2. Begin with the end in mind. Make decisions and choices that are true to the path and goal you have set for yourself. Lakeisha set her mind on her goal and worked tirelessly every day to get there. There are no excuses.
3. Put first things first. Organize your schedule so that things that are important to you - and your future - come first. This means learning to plan ahead, making time for friends, and being brave enough to say no to things that are time-wasters or of importance to others, but not to you. This is also where students write a mission statement to keep them on track, which for me is the same thing as a running mantra.
4. Think win-win. Find solutions to problems that allow everyone to benefit; consider the bigger picture when working with others, not whether you "win". I'm sure some of you have seen this, but it gets me every time.
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Actually listen to others; don't offer unwanted advice or steamroll over their opinions and thoughts. Yes, I teach 8th grade. Yes, they get a kick out of ridiculous videos.
6. Synergize. Work together. United we stand, divided we fall.
7. Sharpen the saw. Take time to relax, re-energize, and keep yourself mentally and physically fit. Obviously, I choose running as my main way to sharpen the saw.
I'd be surprised if my students weren't a little tired of me linking these habits to running. It's the easiest way for me to explain how they work in my life; but I've seen them improve my personal and professional life as well.
I'll never be a Type A, organized person naturally, but at least now I have the tools and knowledge I need to improve myself and how I work with others.
Are you familiar with the 7 Habits?
What are you strong areas? I think I'm usually pretty good at "seeking to understand..."
What do you need to work on? I definitely could work on "putting first things first"! I'm super unorganized and give in too easily to what I want to do versus what I should be doing.
I love all of these - thank you for the reminder Ali :)ReplyDelete
Of course :)Delete
What great lessons!! I wish someone had walked me though this when I was in high school. You're giving these kids (and yourself!) such a great gift. THESE are the important things to learn in school. Kudos to you and, I would never tire of your running analogies :-)ReplyDelete
My school tends to roll out programs like this but they always fizzle. This is the first that's really sticking and has a foundational core I can believe it. I think once the kids adopt it fully, we'll see a big change in them!Delete
These are great and I've never heard of them! My little grade ones and twos are already predicting my story like this: "Let me guess, it's about running?" LOL.....so I'm thinking they are sick of my running analogies!ReplyDelete
Haha...I don't remember my teachers ever using personal stories to highlight things we were learning, so I think it's great that we share! Plus, I know it makes the kids want to try running!Delete
We're using the 7 Habits with all our grades, K-8. It's cool to see the kids pick up on it!
I am not familiar with this, but what an awesome thing for teens to learn. I mean, these strategies are things a lot of adults can't even do. I think my strong point would be "be proactive". Like you, "put first things first" would be a weak area. The thing is, I am very organized and focused in some ways, but in other ways I just feel so overwhelmed that there is TOO much to do, and I can't get my focus right.ReplyDelete
Yeah, these are definitely life skills that we hope they'll use throughout their futures!Delete
I'm okay at being proactive except when it comes to not being "reactive" (meaning...acting on your first impulse instead of thinking things through, especially when angry). With putting first things first, I'm great at scheduling, but not so much on following through! lol
I love Lizzie's story, so inspirational.ReplyDelete
I definitely need to work on "seek first to understand." I'm definitely the annoying person who doesn't let you complete a thought before I start telling you my opinion/advice. I have been trying to work on this for a while... I think I'm getting better at it. I still do it sometimes, but I often catch myself in the act and slow down, apologize and then sit back and listen. It has definitely taken me a while to get to this point and I hope to get even better at it because I know I hate it when it happens to me.
It's so amazing that you're aware that you do that. Most people have no clue! The chapter on "seek first" is amazing. It gives all kinds of advice and scenarios to help you see what active listening is really all about. I know I definitely barge in with my opinion on things like blog posts/comments, and I finish friends' sentences sometimes lol. It's definitely an area I can still improve on, too!Delete
I have never heard of this but now I am intrigued!!!ReplyDelete
It's a really awesome way to make yourself accountable and get your life in order. I actually think you might like it, based on your recent goals!Delete
Thanks for posting this! I really needed it...and cried watching the I Run video. I have read the 7 Habits before, but I think lot of lot of things in life you just get caught up in the day to day activities of life and forget to check in with yourself, so thanks for the reminder!ReplyDelete
I'm so glad you found it helpful! It's been a truly eye-opening experience, and I hope to use the lessons I'm learning from here on out!Delete